J.F.S. match to me, predictive relationship 2nd cousin and we share Great Grandparents
23andMe match 2nd cousin on 14 markers, we share 93 relatives together, haplogroup for me L2ala2 and for J.F.S. L2ale
Here is the response to my inquiry:
Good day, sir. There is no Saluda Slade, in this family tree. What i have discovered is the males and females have given birth to children without ever notifying their spouses. This occured from males and females. It appears females had cgildren without notifying their future spouse. It also appears males had children, though married, with other women, while married. So far, tge females did not produce progeny, while married, howebwr males, did. That explaines tge DNA segment matches of 3.8% and lower. I have been contacted by white families as well and are disghusted to know I am their NEICE, AUNT and 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, 9th cousin and that i am lredominantky of SubSaharan descent. They were comoletwky unaware that their father, though married to thwir mothwr fathered a black child. THIS CONNECTION IS ON THE PATERNAL HAPLOTYPE AND THE MALE HAD SEX WITH AN UNKNOWN FEMALE AND PRODUCED A CHILD. When I shared your email with the remainder of my family, they prefer that they not open a can of worms. I shall comply with tge majority of this famiky and any i fidelities that resukted in offspring shall remain unknown. How does it go, till dwath do we part. Thank you for informing us, our paternal great- great -great-grandfather had a relationship he didnt want to disclose. He is dead. Been dead for 3 generations and he may not have know of the conception. Since he didnt know, and his son dindt know, and his grand son didny know and his great grand aon disnt know and his great, great, grrat grand son dinsy know, none kf yhis current family deaires to knkw what he did, before he married his wife. Sir, i shall reacy as my white 1sy cousin. Take this informayion with you, yo your grave. It shall remain undisclosed. God bless. Do nkt contacts me further. I will.not respond. Best wishes.
This is verbatim without any changes to the email.
This a confirmation of the relationship and does not deter me from entering the ancestor information in the family tree. The same information is in Gedmatch and triangulations confirms the match.
As long as you have validation, recorded proof in records just move on, we can never change how one thinks but we certainly can continue our journey finding our ancestors.